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How to be Confident
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BY LILY HERSCH
EDITOR IN CHIEF
When I was younger, confidence was my strongest muscle. Maybe it was simply in my genes, maybe it was because I had never been told to shut up; don’t know, don’t care. When I was in elementary school and would flip through my mom’s People magazines, I’d draw the dresses I saw the celebrities wear; instead of the beautiful celebrity, I’d draw myself as the angular and graceful luminary instead. Quite frankly, I thought I was the sh**.
Then I became a highschooler. And suddenly I started caring about the opinions of boys who didn’t shower enough and girls who smelt like a Bath and Body Works candle but times one thousand. Ew. It’s easy to be confident as a child, but when you enter adolescence, you start to lose sight of why you were at all. Though, I have regained my confidence since. So, do not fear; you can find the keys to confidence here, even without veneers or a beer.
First, there is no way around it: you have to be a warrior in the IDGAF war, or the school-friendly term, IDC war. You must gaslight yourself into thinking that caring about others opinions to the point where it negatively impacts you is being self-absorbed. Somebody said you’re annoying? Don’t care. Somebody said you’re dumb? Don’t care. Don’t feel you’re best? Don’t care. As Paris Hilton once said, “I don't really think, I just walk.” and I live by that.
Next, you have to focus on what you DO like about yourself, not what you don’t like. This takes a lot of effort and mental reprogramming. Fake it till you make it, even. It can be anything, as long as it's not self-deprecating. Maybe you like how artistic you are, how hardworking you are, how you had the stamina to watch an entire Friends episode without falling asleep, etc.
And, you need to accept the fact that not everybody will like you. We all know not everyone will like us deep down, but when we come into contact with someone who actually doesn't, we feel we have sinned. 8 billion people are on this planet, unfortunately; if everyone you have met likes you, you must not have much personality.
This isn’t me saying to not care about others and not have empathy, but to remind yourself that you are your own best friend. Oftentimes, someone's potential dislike of you has nothing to do with you; it’s a reflection of their own internal conflicts. View their projection onto you as a sign you’re winning in life. Take Kim Kardashian as an example: "I couldn't care less if they [the media] say I'm pregnant with twins by my brother."
Confidence is key. If you don’t believe in yourself, how will anyone else? It is a long, slow process to become a confident person. But when you are, you are more resilient, happy, relaxed, and realize that truly, it’s not that deep. In conclusion, “I’m not offended by blonde jokes because I know I’m not dumb…and I also know that I’m not blonde.” - Dolly Parton
POSTED 5/7
EDITOR IN CHIEF
When I was younger, confidence was my strongest muscle. Maybe it was simply in my genes, maybe it was because I had never been told to shut up; don’t know, don’t care. When I was in elementary school and would flip through my mom’s People magazines, I’d draw the dresses I saw the celebrities wear; instead of the beautiful celebrity, I’d draw myself as the angular and graceful luminary instead. Quite frankly, I thought I was the sh**.
Then I became a highschooler. And suddenly I started caring about the opinions of boys who didn’t shower enough and girls who smelt like a Bath and Body Works candle but times one thousand. Ew. It’s easy to be confident as a child, but when you enter adolescence, you start to lose sight of why you were at all. Though, I have regained my confidence since. So, do not fear; you can find the keys to confidence here, even without veneers or a beer.
First, there is no way around it: you have to be a warrior in the IDGAF war, or the school-friendly term, IDC war. You must gaslight yourself into thinking that caring about others opinions to the point where it negatively impacts you is being self-absorbed. Somebody said you’re annoying? Don’t care. Somebody said you’re dumb? Don’t care. Don’t feel you’re best? Don’t care. As Paris Hilton once said, “I don't really think, I just walk.” and I live by that.
Next, you have to focus on what you DO like about yourself, not what you don’t like. This takes a lot of effort and mental reprogramming. Fake it till you make it, even. It can be anything, as long as it's not self-deprecating. Maybe you like how artistic you are, how hardworking you are, how you had the stamina to watch an entire Friends episode without falling asleep, etc.
And, you need to accept the fact that not everybody will like you. We all know not everyone will like us deep down, but when we come into contact with someone who actually doesn't, we feel we have sinned. 8 billion people are on this planet, unfortunately; if everyone you have met likes you, you must not have much personality.
This isn’t me saying to not care about others and not have empathy, but to remind yourself that you are your own best friend. Oftentimes, someone's potential dislike of you has nothing to do with you; it’s a reflection of their own internal conflicts. View their projection onto you as a sign you’re winning in life. Take Kim Kardashian as an example: "I couldn't care less if they [the media] say I'm pregnant with twins by my brother."
Confidence is key. If you don’t believe in yourself, how will anyone else? It is a long, slow process to become a confident person. But when you are, you are more resilient, happy, relaxed, and realize that truly, it’s not that deep. In conclusion, “I’m not offended by blonde jokes because I know I’m not dumb…and I also know that I’m not blonde.” - Dolly Parton
POSTED 5/7